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[ksmith]

Entering July tomorrow. It's been varying grades of horrible for the last couple of years--lost Mom in 2007, and Mickey last year. The fact that it's my birthday month has been lost. I don't even care.

I hope this July is uneventful.

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[planetalyx.livejournal.com]

I will hope that for you too.

Birthdays can grow back in time. We've more or less ignored K's July birthday for the last couple years, even though the 'bad' months for us have been June and August. But this year we'll celebrate, cautiously, by seeing a flamenco performance and having a handful of friends over for cake.

[barbarienne.livejournal.com]

Birthdays can grow back in time.

-->Yes, exactly. My dad passed away 3 days before my birthday. It's five years now, and I feel as if this year my birthday will be real again.

Hang in there, Kristine. I also hope for an uneventful July.

[kristine-smith.livejournal.com]

I find it oddly reassuring that I'm not the only one who has gone through the birthday thing. It's still adrift this year, buried in a deadline fog.

[e-moon60.livejournal.com]

May you recover the joy of your birthday in a month that does nothing you don't want and at least one HUGE thing you do.

If I could make it so, I would. But I can at least pray that that's what happens.

[kristine-smith.livejournal.com]

Thanks

[michaeldthomas.livejournal.com]

I hope that you have an extremely dull July.

We're the same about October. Lynne is still pretty scarred from her birthday in 2002. That was the day of her mother's funeral. She was also 8 1/2 months pregnant at the time with the knowledge that Cait had brain abnormalities. We still don't celebrate Lynne's birthday.

[kristine-smith.livejournal.com]

Dull would be nice. It's starting out with me in the throes of deadline panic, but that will be over in a week.

[hoosier-red.livejournal.com]

Here's hoping that this July is a huge improvement on previous years'.

[kristine-smith.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

[pbray.livejournal.com]

Sending good wishes your way for a quiet and uneventful month.

[kristine-smith.livejournal.com]

Thank you

Un-Birthday

[(Anonymous)]

I once had a co-worker who I assume had a similar problem (she never told us why, and we never pressed her). But she was a great peer, and we wanted to show her how much we appreciated her, so we gave her an "un-birthday". We just picked a random Friday a couple of monts before her real birthday and gave her a surprise party, complete with decorations and a cake and presents. She really enjoyed it, and that is how we celebrated her birthday from there on out. It was a good solution for all of us. When you're ready, it might work for you, too.

Carolyn

Re: Un-Birthday

[kristine-smith.livejournal.com]

Another friend suggested simply picking another day and treating it as my birthday. I also try to go to Wiscon each year, and she suggested celebrating it then. I thought about looking into a party suite and having an "It's my birthday when I say it's my birthday" party, but then the book kicked me in the ass and I couldn't take the time.

July is weird for me too

[(Anonymous)]

July is a mixed bag for me too.

It's my birthday month, and family birthday events were never fun. As a kid I hated them, then as I grew I learned to ignore them. In recent years I find I've evolved to the point where I can accept a single birthday present from my wife without growling.

July also contains the anniversary of the death of a girl I loved and would have married, long ago and far away. That date is near my birthday, and the two occasions have been intermixed in my mind ever since. Between the two, the back half of July has often seen me holed up in a cave waiting for August.

On the other hand, July holds the anniversary of the first moon landing, and I'll always remember that morning. My mother worked on Surveyor and my grandfather on the Saturn V. July 20th is a good day.

And of course there's the 4th. Aside from being the birthday of someone I am quite fond of, the holiday itself has good memories for me. I remember laying in a corn field with my wife the summer she moved in with me, with the fireworks going off right over head. I remember another year, this time in a small town in northern California, watching my father in law laugh his ass off as the local fire brigade figured out just how many m80s it took to blow an anvil into the air.

July is getting better.

Dave

Re: July is weird for me too

[kristine-smith.livejournal.com]

I remember another year, this time in a small town in northern California, watching my father in law laugh his ass off as the local fire brigade figured out just how many m80s it took to blow an anvil into the air.

Boys and things that go *boom*.

When my Dad was a kid, they used to drop cannon crackers into the Buffalo sewers and make the manhole covers flip like coins.